Fear: What is it? How does it effect us? How do we deal with it?

Fear can have a very major negative effect and control on our lives

Our society conditions us to hide from, or totally avoid, our fear. Instead of feeling the pain and attempting to identify its causes, we instead bury our fears deep and avoid dealing with them.

Fear in our society

Fear can be used as a weapon of social control used to manipulate thoughts and actions without people even realizing it. John B. Watson, an American psychologist who established the psychological school of behaviorism, stated, “The driving force in society is not love, it’s fear.”

What is fear?

Common acronyms for fear (F.E.A.R.) are:

F  =  False or Future

E =   Events or Evidence or Expectations

A =   Appearing

R =   Real

Fight or Flight

The fight-or-flight response (hyper arousal or the acute stress response) was first described by Walter Cannon in the 1920’s as a physiological reaction that occurs in response to a perceived harmful event, attack, or threat to survival.

The voice of fear is anchored in our reptilian brain. It’s a hardwired response that’s evolved over millions of years, and it has the capacity to provide us with intense bursts of energy.

The fight-or-flight response involves one of our most basic instinctual mechanisms. A lot of our actions, or reactions, are played out unconsciously. This means that we make a lot of our decisions without much thought as to why we are making them. We simply feel an emotion, or an urge, and just accept it and obey it, never really questioning why it’s there.

What are some of the main types of fears?

  • The Fear of Rejection is basically a fear of people. We go through our lives always seeking to please others
  • Fear of Failure involves worrying about making mistakes, about hurting other people, or being judged for your actions and decisions
  • The Fear of Success is the most common goal-oriented fear in our society today. We get so comfortable with how things are that that stepping out of this reality causes a lot of uncertainty and unpredictability
  • The above three major fears result in many other fears such as inadequacy, commitment, change, responsibility, confrontation and losing control

The Consequences of Our Fears

There are several key consequences of our fears:

  • Fear breeds resistance that pulls you away from opportunities and back into your comfort zone
  • Fear breeds the habit of insecurity which is basically a lack of confidence that we feel about our abilities
  • Fear breeds destructive behaviors that sabotage us from moving forward with our lives in a proactive manner
  • Fear robs us of our motivation by creating insurmountable irrational obstacles
  • Fear stifles emotional and intellectual growth which can only happen if we move beyond our comfort zone and into the world of new experiences

Fear costs us big time!

Unrestrained fear destroys trust, relationships and love. When controlled by fear, we are easily overwhelmed. Sometimes it actually mentally paralyzes us. By thinking only about surviving perceived threats, we are easily controlled and manipulated.

It is important to make an effort to understand the real reasons that we are afraid. To work through them and to overcome the fear.

Fear is addictive

The more we focus on the negative, the worse we feel, and the worse we feel, the more we feel compelled to search for what’s wrong. Once fear is triggered, we keep coming back for more.

What are some Fear Conquering Tactics?

The steps involved in Questioning Your Fears are as follows:

(1)     Validate Your Fears                                                                                                                   

(2)     Understand Your Fears                                                                                                                 

(3)     Determine the Consequences of Your Fears; and

(4)     Plan Ahead in a rational, proactive manner to help you overcome your fears

The frequency of fear

Fear has a very dense, thick, slow, strong and low vibration. It makes us feel unsafe, threatened, separated and disconnected. It can stunt our emotional growth and progress by blocking our interaction with our inner spirit and promoting a lack of harmony with the Creator.

The vibration of fear creates disharmony. A person who vibrates fear will draw others into their lives who are also vibrating fear.

The frequency of fear can cause mental, physical, emotional and spiritual bondage. It can also greatly reduce our ability to expand our consciousness and raise our vibration or frequency.

People experiencing the lower vibration of fear can be subjected to feelings such as anger, resentment, hate, jealousy, greed, etc. The high vibration of love involves feelings of peace, joy, happiness, kindness, compassion, caring, charity, etc. Which group sounds better for your life and well being?

Fear versus Abundance

Fear includes a belief that there is a lack or scarcity of resources and love. The universe is always sending a constant flow of abundance to us but we create barriers to receiving it. Our thoughts, beliefs, and lack of self-worth, can all block abundance. We are responsible for removing the blockages that halt the flow of abundance: https://become5d.com/achieve-maintain-spiritual-abundance/

Chose Love over Fear

Essentially, all of our choices can be traced back to two opposite sources: Love or Fear.

When our actions are rooted in love, we come from a place of spiritual fullness and self-security. When our actions are rooted in fear, we come from a place of separation and lack.

Living in constant fear is toxic to our energy field. It drains us and keeps us from being our best selves. Fear, anxiety and insecurity are intertwined.

Establishing safety within ourselves helps us to heal both our mental and emotional body and overcome deep fears.

Bringing compassion and mindfulness directly to the experience of fear will help dissolve it. Love makes you brave. Love also has one of the highest frequencies or vibrations, which helps us with our spiritual ascension:  https://become5d.com/getting-to-the-fifth-dimension/

Following are some of the many enlightening contrasts, provided in a Tiny Buddha post by Sarah Nean Bruce, between love and fear:

LOVE IS UNCONDITIONAL (fear is conditional)

LOVE RELEASES (fear obligates)

LOVE SURRENDERS (fear binds)

LOVE TRUSTS (fear suspects)

LOVE GIVES (fear resists)

LOVE FORGIVES (fear blames)

LOVE HEALS (fear hurts)

LOVE FREES (fear imprisons)

LOVE ACCEPTS (fear rejects)

LOVE ENJOYS (fear suffers)


References: http://blog.iqmatrix.com/overcome-your-fears; https://www.huffingtonpost.com/brian-whetten/the-gift-of-gratitude_b_7418496.html; https://tinybuddha.com/blog/love-versus-fear/




One thought on “Fear: What is it? How does it effect us? How do we deal with it?

Thanks for reading. Leave a Reply